It is difficult for most people to move from reporting again and again (rehashing) the problems in their relationship. The problem leads to hurt and mistrust so it continues a cycle of emotional pain. I believe this comes from a point of fear of being hurt. "I will never let that happen again", so we keep playing the bad feeling or problem over and over to guard against the painful incident reoccurring, now you are really stuck in the problem. Communication is now set u